Haters of a feather flock together. Haters need support to sustain the justification for their behavior, lack of character, and just the really sad fact that they have engaged in hating. But those people are either also being deceived, or, more likely, enjoy the hating. They may even like the fact that they can support the hating without actually getting their own hands dirty.
In time, they may discover that they were deceived or were wrong, but you have to let them go just like the haters. This is how some people feel that they have to be in order to make their way in the world, especially when it comes to money. Every leader has a bucket full of tears they have cried over the things that haters do. Let it hurt. No, let that pain be open.
Over time, the hate takes them over. You can let them have their hate. It challenges people to produce and grow and create. You created the hate. Look, light cannot exist without darkness. Test me on this. Let the haters tell you what to do. The best thing you can do is dialogue with them on paper or in your own mind and ask them what you should do.
They might tell you to clean up your act. Haters make you into the leader you want to be. So prepare: there will likely be more. Haters, and their support networks, are trapped in shame. You will almost always find a childhood rife with shame or shaming. Hating is usually an attempt by those riddled with shame to publicly shame someone else. The whole world is watching. When haters try to take someone down, the whole world steps back and watches to see what everyone does.
This is one of the types of sunshine that causes haters to hide. If the haters bring you down, then we call them something other than haters. Like they literally will propel you to greater success. Imagine a state senator, and some people in the state senate try to destroy her reputation. They try to scandalize her, they shred her behind her back, they steal from her or lie about her, they try to get as many people as possible to join them in their crusade. If they bring her down, the world sees it as just.
They are not as strong as you might think they are. Still though: watch your back. If their cause was just, they would go about it the right way, not by hating. If those who support them had good motives, they would demand sunshine on the whole situation and the right ways of dealing with conflict. Haters are mostly trying to make a big splash, or to appear to be on par.
Haters are like presidential assassins — they think they can achieve through destruction what can only be achieved through creation. If someone hates on people regularly, when they come into your life they will make it out like those other people were bad, but they love you. This is false. This is a naive mistake for a leader. Focus on your Lovers. Haters usually hate demographics, not just individuals. It might not be as bad as racism or homophobia, but it will be akin to it.
Kanye didn't do anything like that, yet he has moved through the industry in different ways and has been able to excel at the top of the game. Kanye makes people uncomfortable. People would rather be right and hate, than wrong and grow.
Kanye doesn't fit public perception of a black rap artist, and for that reason he is "hated". He had real reasons to say what he said -- but there is such a thing as timing, and when he interrupted the girl on stage, well it was simply bad timing. The best way to tell a hater is: look at how they treat others and look at their actions.
Don't think you are special. If they tear down and disrespect people they consider friends, and then smile in their faces when they come around, don't deceive yourself as though they won't be the same with you. I think the hardest thing for us as humans to do is accept people for exactly who they are. As Maya Angelou said, "When someone shows you their true colors, believe them. Don't get tricked into thinking that you have to carry the burden of hate.
The psychology of a hater is to impose their self-hate on others. It's not as much about you as it is about them. Don't take hate personally, because at the end of the day -- it just isn't. Don't look at hate as a reflection of yourself and your work, but don't use it as a crutch either. Take time to reflect and critique yourself and surround yourself with others who are honest enough to do the same. Now go get you some haters! News U. Politics Joe Biden Congress Extremism.
Special Projects Highline. HuffPost Personal Video Horoscopes. Follow Us. One of the pre-requisites of perpetrating violence is the lowering or elimination of moral consciousness.
Haters thus acquire the ability of morally disengaging from their actions and create excuses for the hatred they feel, or the suffering that they consciously cause. That is how a mass murderer can, after an act of ethnic cleansing, be found to be a loving husband and a good father to his children. Indian readers can find their own examples. This explains how, emboldened by anonymity, they foster and spread increasingly virulent hatred over say, WhatsApp groups.
Bernard Golden observes that when haters participate in a group, it fosters a sense of connection and camaraderie that fills a void in their individual identity. However, an individual restrains the beast that lurks within his subconscious to some extent because he is afraid of the consequences. It bursts forth and becomes more monstrous in groups. The psychology of people hating more virulently when they are part of groups or organisations is essentially the same as that of people committing rapes or other crimes during mass crimes like riots.
Clashes near Jaffrabad area of New Delhi. Photo: PTI. The study points out that many hate crimes are driven by an immature itch for excitement and drama. Generally, even as many people harbour communal hatred, they are apprehensive of giving it a public expression lest it meets with social opprobrium.
However, a leader who shamelessly espouses blatantly communal or racist hatred and blames certain racial groups or communities as the source of all evil and all failings of the people of the target audience, immediately strikes a chord in the hearts of those people. Swearing allegiance to such leaders frees the followers from any guilt. Now they promise to protect us from nightmares.
A similar phenomenon has been working in India too.
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